<--- Andy Bell's post of the week... Idleness is not doing nothing. Idleness is being free to do anything.
“When a man starts my program, he often says, “I am here because I lose control of myself sometimes. I need to get a better grip.” I always correct him: "Your problem is not that you lose control of yourself, it’s that you take control of your partner. In order to change, you don’t need to gain control over yourself, you need to let go of control of her.” Lundy Bancroft - 'Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men'
The family that sticks together should bath more often... [OK, I'll see myself out. Ed. ☺]